Did I not ask for enough?

I am STUNNED!

I have the most amazing people in my life (you). No, really YOU, the one reading this. The one sitting in your chair!

I want things. I want success. I want connections. I want love.

Today, I learned something.

I consider myself to be a busy person. (HA! Go read the rant by Redhead Writing about this: (http://redheadwriting.com/the-bitch-slap-busy)

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At any rate, today a very good friend asked me to help out a new up-and-comer. In the face of being so “busy’, I spent a good portion of my night connecting this person (who I’ve never even met) with some of my most important peeps. It may come to nothing. Yet, it was worth the shot!

I realized…I WANT TO DO STUFF for people. I want to make a difference.

And then I realized…WOW! I really need help getting to where I want to be…and people keep saying..WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME? I WILL HELP YOU!

Get the paradox here? I want to help, but I don’t know how to ask for it!

I am limited by my inability to ask for help.

Game on!

I challenge you (and me) to embarrass yourself asking for the help you want.

Even the BIBLE says “Ask and you shall receive”. Do I listen? NO!

Maybe at the heart of us, each of us knows that we only matter if we made a difference for someone else.

So, allow people to make a difference with me. That’s what I will do.

And you?

What do you REALLY want? Are you willing to ask for help?

Love your doubts UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

How do you engage someone in ways they never imagined?

I was attending a conference session headed up by a very interesting organization called Care2 (Make a Difference) at www.care2.com. I do NOT condone every one of their messages, but they solidified something for me.

Care2 postulates that if you have a business that satisfies 6 Basic Human Needs, you have got a winner!

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I was thrilled. First, I already work to incorporate all of them – AND it gave me ideas for getting even better. I am thinking about painting these 6 key words on my office wall to remind me (and all those who work with me) to fulfill these needs in every interaction. Ready? Here they are:

1) Significance: Day-In-and-Day-Out, I make sure that EVERY person who interacts with me is acknowledged publicly. Think I can’t keep it up? TRY ME!

2) Connection: People have a deep desire to feel connected – to a person, a brand, a company, a vision. I work HARD to provide pathways to this. I will never stop!

3) Contribution: People are DYING to make a difference. I am so grateful that YOU make a difference with me. It is my goal to demonstrate publicly the difference you make and the contribution you are to my life, to others’ lives, and to all of your communities.

4) Certainty: People want to know what to expect when they listen to my messages.I believe they expect Dignity, Irreverence, Inspiration, and something that reminds them of who they are. I work very hard on this quality. The Irreverent Sales Girl does not swear and rarely disparages – UNLESS you are so totally off base that disparging you is the only avenue I can see (*grin*).

5) Variety: The yin to the yang of Certainty. (Or is it the other way around?) In any case, people want to be Surprised and Delighted. They like a twist. They want something a little unexpected. This is why I stay FAR away from “warmed over porridge” otherwise known as sappy platitudes. There is plenty of that everywhere else.

6) Growth: People want an opportunity to grow. Everything I offer is designed for exactly that. So that I can grow and hopefully offer something that inspires you to grow, too! If we do not all grow together, I’ll likely get left behind! No GOOD!

Feel free to steal these tenets if you’d like. I stole them after all! I think they are amazing!

Let’s go forth and give people what they want!

Love your work UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

 

On being INFECTIOUS…

I was asking my friend today why people care about what I have to say. I was very  interested because, truth be told, I am FATALLY FLAWED in ways I cannot even begin to count – and in many cases, still not willing to share! HA!

I am un-organized, I lack follow-through, I am sometimes extremely selfish and very stingy with my love. I’m pretty sure I am way behind all of you in success. I am a “preacher” and I lack the confidence to be vulnerable. It all keeps me very small.

Yet, there was something she said that hit the mark. She told me that I am INFECTIOUS! I love people. I love them NOW, in the moment. I never say never and I never give up – until it’s time to give up, of course.

INFECTIOIUS … she says. I can see that! I like to light other people’s fires and see them shine. I like to get excited about what I have to say and what you have to say. I like to say “yes” and let the chips fall where they may.

Today, I was on the phone with a company who is going to sign a contract with me. (I sell into Fortune 500 companies, as a rule…to set some context). When they told me that they were ready to move forward, I let out a tiny “yay” and said, “I’m jumping” (and I was – I was jumping in my office). This CRACKED THEM UP and they generously countered with…”as happy as you are, we are 10 times happier…this is going to solve our major problems”. It was a magical moment.

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So, I’m literally terrible at many many things. Yet, I am JUST LOVELY at one very important thing. I am INFECTIOUS!

The moral of the story is not that YOU need to be infectious (although, I suspect you are more than you know if you would simply let go from time-to-time). I think the moral of the story is BE WHO YOU REALLY ARE. Show your passion for what you love. The hardest one…BE VULNERABLE. If you have the time to watch this marvelous TED talk on being vulnerable…it will rock your world. http://bit.ly/fgr5V7

Today, I am VERY grateful for those of you who are engaged in the conversations I am having with you. I have few followers, but you are MIGHTY and interested and wildly INTERESTING.

That’s what matters to me.

Not hundreds of thousands of followers, but people who are really out to accomplish something and provide something even if they can’t see why or how…just ‘cuz they are called to do it. I am in a powerful community and I am grateful for you.

NOW.. Let’s go be INFECTIOUS. Are you in?

Ask and You Shall Receive … A lovely guest post from Kira Geairn

I just started my first retail job and went into it thinking it was going to be a breeze. How hard could selling shoes possibly be? Turns out, harder than I thought. My first real day (i.e. after my training day) I had a goal of selling $600. After five hours I hadn’t even come close! I finished the day with under $200 in sales.

Pretty pathetic, huh?

The second day I went in with pretty low expectations but decided that I was going to try opening up more. I started approaching people more often and asking other employees or my managers when I needed help. I even gave a client to someone else because I was too busy helping other people.

I ended up selling $615 when my goal was only $400.

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The biggest differences? Asking for help. Trying to be independent or self-sufficient will only go so far.

It’s a lesson I’ve been learning this year all over the place and one that I’ve been fighting pretty hard. But the adage “Ask and you shall receive” is rapidly becoming my mantra. Good things will only come to those who ASK for them!

So whether you’re a CEO or a shoe salesman, SUCCESS is only available to those who ask.

From ISG: Great work, Kira.

Love your peeps UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

Practice Honesty

Mark Twain said, “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything”.

UNITED STATES – CIRCA 1900: Mark Twain (Photo by Buyenlarge/Getty Images)

This is easily gotten, but not easily practiced.

Today, I told the truth to a business partner about something I had said about him, behind his back. It was a funny throw-away line, BUT… It wasn’t pretty. I am not even sure why I “needed” to say it.

Here’s what is REALLY interesting! It is unlikely he would have ever known that I had said it.

But, I care about my business, so I told him.(I was shaking in my boots when I did.)  Know what he did? He LAUGHED!!!!

What I learned? I still act as if I am 15-years-old some days. AND, people are GENEROUS. What’s funny is…HE apologized to ME that I’d sweated it out for two days to tell him.

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THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE.

Even if it seems scary!

Love your honesty UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

Why “Can I?” is such a bad habit

So often when we confront something we want to do … our first thought is “Can I?”

“Can I afford it?” “Can I physically handle it?” “Can I make it work with my schedule?”

I wonder where we learned this. Whose permission are we asking anyway? When we were kids were we so trained in learning to ask “Can I?” that it just STUCK!

WHAT IF we were trained to ask “How can I?”

“Hey, Mom! HOW CAN I get you to agree to have Nicky over for dinner tonight?”

“Hey, Teacher! HOW CAN I get an extra 15 minutes of recess today?”

“Hey, Dad. HOW CAN I get the family to Disneyland this summer?”

What would your life look like NOW if you were trained THAT WAY.

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Today, In invite you to pretend that you WERE trained that way. Like anything is possible, you’ve just got to find out how and don’t stop asking until you do! Maybe you’ll start by giving YOURSELF permission in the first place.

Simple!

Today could be a MIRACLE DAY for you!

Love yourself UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

Collecting “no’s” is a fantastic strategy

Hypothesis: If you are getting a LOT of “no’s” – you aren’t asking for enough from life!

Doesn’t matter what business you’re in – even if you’re not in business. Ever notice how kids keep asking and asking and asking. Never minding that they’re collecting “no’s”, they’re simply going for the “yes”. The magical “yes”.

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I’ve heard that you can’t collect 20 “no’s” in a row for a request that is even remotely possible.

I dare you to try this today. What is something you want? Now, go ask for that thing 20 times from people who could give it to you. You could do 20 asks from the same person! (That could be interesting). Or ask 20 people.

If you take the dare, please share your results! Did you get 20?

Love your life UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

Going to the Ocean with a Thimble

OK

This is the hardest thing for me to get myself.

The world is willing (and able) to give you EVERYTHING you wish for.

But, we don’t ask.

Surprisingly, I have asked for about 100 things in the past month – and I’ve gotten ONE “No!” (in response to … do you want to receive my newsletter).

ONE “NO” out of 100 asks. WOW!

I now have to deal with that I’m not asking for very much.

What would your life look like if you were asking for so much that you got only ONE yes for ONE HUNDRED asks?

But, that ONE YES was a WORLD-SHAKER?

Consider that you are going to the OCEAN with a thimble, when it is ALL available to you.

NOW, what will you ask for?

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Bonus Opportunity: Post your BIG ASK …

Love miracles UP!

The Irreverent Sales GIrl

When life takes an unexpected left turn…

And it sometimes does.

Life is just life-ing along and then BAM! the unexpected news you never expected to hear and it changes everything!

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How do you keep your head about you and keep everything moving boldly in the direction of your dreams?

First, I would say…take some time to hunker down with the ones you love. Let it all in.

When you are ready, re-convene and keep going for it!

My favorite coach used to say, “Remember, EVERYTHING is working in YOUR favor!” Ha! It really always does!

Love it all UP!

The Irreverent Sales Girl

Wisdom from my father…Eight Thoughts to Ponder

OK…EVERYONE has a father…even The Irreverent Sales Girl. I got lucky!  Mine happens to be brilliant and funny. Here’s an email he sent to me today. Enjoy!

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Eight Thoughts To Ponder

Number 8
Life is sexually transmitted.

Number 7
Good health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.

Number 6
Men have two emotions : Hungry and Horny. If you see a gleam in his         eyes, make him a sandwich.

Number 5
Give a person a fish and you feed them for a day. Teach a person to use the Internet and they won’t bother you for weeks, months, maybe years.

Number 4
Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in the hospitals, dying of nothing.

Number 3
All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.

Number 2
In the 60’s, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal.

And The Number 1 Thought
Life is like a jar of Jalapeno peppers –what you do today, might burn your ass tomorrow.

– – – and as someone recently said to me:

“Don’t worry about old age–it doesn’t last that long.”

A little crude in parts? Certainly, but worth the think anyway!

Love your life up NOW!

The Irreverent Sales Girl